To get it, you have to join a session online or in person, but this will give you a map and an understanding of what we do, how we do and why.
The Method Step by Step
At its core Wider Embraces asks the question “Who is Embracing?”. It is through this question that we explore aspects of the world that are usually hidden from us. Hidden from our normal, separate self, but visible when we lean out into our wider Embraces.
1.Become aware of our connectedness through facts
First, we decide which Wider Embraces we would like to work with. It can be Humanity, the Biosphere, the Universe, our country, our family, or anything else we belong to.
We share our knowledge about this Embrace, focusing on how we are an integrated part of the Embrace. We use the latest scientific findings and our own experiences.
If we, for example, we choose the Biosphere, we talk about how living beings on planet Earth form one huge, global ecosystem. How each one of us is the result of a more than three billion year long unbroken chain of life, and that we all are related, that we are one huge family tree.
Or if we choose to work with our families or an organisation, we start by becoming aware of each and everyone involved and how we are connected. Maybe there is an issue we would like to look into; then we talk about it briefly.
When we have established our mental image of belonging, we move into the next phase.
2. Becoming aware of the embrace holding us
We then become aware of the Embrace we wish to work with. Noticing that it has been there all the time. It can take some practice to recognise and tune into our Wider Embraces, but after a while, you become familiar with the sensation of becoming aware of one. If you are familiar with the concept of subtle fields, this is what you are sensing into.
We don’t create our Embraces; as soon as there is something with an inside and an outside, there is an Embrace. We can create the foundation for them; forming a group, building a company. But the Embrace itself is not made.
3. Resting in our Wider Embrace – Deeper Belonging
When we are aware of the Embrace, we can rest in it. Feel our deep belonging, being at home, unconditionally. Our minds relax, stomachs may make some noises, muscles release their tension. It’s like taking a warm bath.
Many of us struggle with the feeling of not belonging, and I’m one of them. With the Wider Embraces method, I’ve got a new sense of deep belonging. I’ve become more integrated and present in both my closer relations and on a planetary scale.
Sometimes it’s fine to just stay with the awareness of an Embrace and rest in it, but there are three more active steps we can take.
4. Shifting Perspective to a Wider Embrace
When we are aware of a wider Embrace, we can lean out into it and become it, take it as our first-person perspective. Sensing and feeling from another viewpoint; a perspective that includes and transcends the personal me. All of this probably sounds strange, and it is, in the beginning.
The shift happens in an instant, there is nothing between being me, and being the Embrace. It’s one perspective or the other, though I can move back and forth and sometimes it can be a bit unclear where we are, that is ok.
5. Sensing from Another Level – Gaining Insights
When we are identified as a wider Embrace, we can start to talk from that perspective, as the wider Embrace:
– As the Embrace of the Family/Humanity/Planet, I feel/see/sense …
We can also express our personal view of being inside the Embrace:
– As Stina in the Embrace of the Family/Humanity/Planet, I feel/see/sense …
It’s important not to project our humaneness onto the Embraces. We don’t know how it is to be the Embrace of the Biosphere, so we have to listen with an open mind and heart. We also avoid all types of religious or spiritual language, and we keep it short, during the session.
The insights we get varies a lot. Often it’s insights around belonging and our role in the Embrace. We write down some of it in the Notes section.
In a group session, most of the time it’s clear to us that we are all speaking from the same perspective, it’s one perspective with many voices, the same Embrace expressing itself through each of us.
However sometimes we are not all tuned into the same Embrace, and then it gets interesting. For example, when we leaned out into the Embrace of Sweden and ended up in three different perspectives. That made us conscious about the differences between physical, biological and cultural Embraces. Sweden as a cultural Embrace, a state, the Swedish people as a biological Embrace and the Scandinavian peninsula as a physical Embrace. All three important, but very different.
6. Alignment – Heal what we Embrace
Identified as an Embrace, we can lean slightly inwards holding all of our parts, unconditionally. This is the other side of the “resting and belonging” we did at the beginning of the session. Then we were parts resting in the embrace of the whole; now we are the whole embracing its parts.
As soon as we start to lean inwards, we often feel a strong, subtle energy field. We think of this as a field of alignment; Letting my parts find their place in the whole, all the way up and down.
7. Share and Reflect
After a session, we share what we experienced and reflect together.
How do I know I’ve Got It?
For some people, it’s an instant revelation and a natural step. For others, it takes practice; it did for me. At first, it was just a vague intuition of something, a short shift of perception. But everyone who has given it a bit of time has been able to make the shift. Most people feel a deep belonging in their first session.
Every session and every person is unique, so whatever you feel and experience is true and valid, right there and then for you. And by sharing it, you add to the full experience of the group.
Before you have experienced a shift in your first-person perspective, it’s hard to imagine what it is like. Here are some indicators, but it’s very personal and your experience may be something else.
- My sense of self changes; sometimes slightly, sometimes profoundly.
- A little smile pops up on my lips.
- If I look around, I recognise that the seer is harder to locate; more omnipresent.
- My voice gets darker, and the pace slows down.
- There is a shift in the subtle energy field.
- My body relaxes.
The two last ones usually occur as soon as I become aware of one of my Embraces. The voice-drop may also happen earlier in the process, but not to the same extent. The three first points are unique to the shift of perspective.
These indicators also work the other way around; if I relax, talk slower and smile, the likelihood of making the shift increases a lot.
Synchronicities May Increase
The more aligned we get, the more synchronicities tend to appear. Not because we are special, or we are drawing things towards us, but because we start to act as a part in a larger system.
Can I join?
You are already part of all your wider Embraces. The Wider Embraces Method only helps you become aware of them. So in one way, you have already joined!
It’s an advantage if you have some experience of being silent and aware of your emotions and bodily sensations, but you can also use the Wider Embraces as a training tool to develop that capacity. Because we work together, there is the support of the group, that helps keep us focused and sense together.
Take Care and Stay Safe
If you have some psychological vulnerability, it might be a good idea to refrain from participating and especially from taking the Embraces as your first-person perspective. The method is relatively new and not tested in any therapeutic setting. You are responsible for your wellbeing and safety, though so far no one has got hurt, and we take care to stay safe.
Where – IRL or Online?
Wider Embraces works perfectly in online sessions, and of course, it’s great to do it in person as well. When we are together physically, we have more options to play with, including moving around and interacting in different ways. Meeting online creates a more focused mode and let us meet around the globe, and for shorter sessions.
Together is the Thing!
It is possible to lean out into a wider Embraces by yourself, but it’s by far easier and more powerful to do it together. Wider Embraces is about our shared spaces and the shift out into the Embrace of the present Group is the easiest one.